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Thursday, April 15, 2010
“...he dug deep and laid a foundation on the rock.” –Luke 6:48
Foundation work is boring. It’s usually made up of unattractive massive rock and soil laid in a form and involves heavier, harder work. It usually costs more than other construction. But, as any architect or engineer would testify, good foundation work is absolutely necessary for building stability.
Recently, at Shelterwood, a section of our parking area needed repair. The asphalt company informed me that we needed more than just a fresh layer of asphalt. We needed the foundation repaired. A fresh top layer of asphalt would have been simpler, quicker, and cheaper, but would not have solved the problem. For a while it might have looked good, but eventually the area would have deteriorated again, because the problem went deeper. The area needed a new foundation. Of course, I sighed and consented to the foundation work. It was really our only choice.
As a parent, sometimes we have to recognize that problems with our teen go deeper. Not every problem involves deep foundation work, but if the problem is recurring and destructive, there may be wisdom in inspecting the foundation. Yes, the work is difficult, involves costs and is somewhat hidden. But to expect teenagers to move on without necessary foundation work often leads to difficulty later.
In Luke 6:47-49, Jesus reminds us of the importance of a strong foundation. As you step up to inspect your teen’s foundation, look for signs of foundation problems- low self-image, a wavering faith, poor grades, family conflict, and isolation. Talk it through with them. Help them sort through the issues. If the foundation work is substantial, link them up with a good counselor or competent youth worker. If issues escalate, sometimes it’s best to send them to foundation specialist like Shelterwood.
Know that good, solid foundation work always makes a difference. Foundations are hidden, so it can be difficult to see results, but helping your teen with inside issues always helps your teen build the foundation necessary to carry the burdens of life.
By Joey Staples ©
Posted by Joseph Staples at 8:14 AM
Labels: difficulty, discipline, rebellion
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